Last night, as I was photographing Bret & Anna's wedding, the couple who was married the longest was asked to give the new couple some advice. First, the husband smiled & nodded to his wife allowing her to be the advice giver. (smart man!) She recited a poem by her own mother from their wedding day. I wish I could remember the wording - but it mentioned a successful marriage needing both patience and stamina!
I remember thinking that this was truer than Bret & Anna might even yet know -- even though you could see that they are very much in love! Marriage isn't a sprint. You won't win the race with just a big start ... or fancy wedding. You need to put in the effort everyday; it's more like a marathon. There will be small setbacks, there will be times when you think to you yourself - what in the world am I --- are WE --- doing? However, through overcoming all of the challenges (like anything really worth attaining) you come to find the greatest reward.
This morning I was awake before Anthony. I left the bedroom to blog so he'd be able to sleep in. That is love.
My writing of this post was interrupted by my cell phone alarm. I had it set for yesterday morning so I'd be on the time for Bret & Anna's wedding. Too bad I left it on - in the the bedroom - and it woke Anthony up. He forgave me... that is love.
My email told me that some single game Red Sox tickets were on sale this morning. I got Anthony standing room for a Sox-Yankee's game. That is love.
Anthony came out of the bedroom and declared that he was going to vacuum before taking a shower. THAT IS LOVE!
I give a lot of wedding planning advice on my blog - what I don't do is give much relationship advice. Sure, having a wonderful wedding day is nice, but that's not really what is important. What is really important is the foundation of your love that comes before - and the lifetime of love that comes after. If there is one bit of advice you get from my blog today I hope it is this:
It is all of the small ways that you say I love you that matter!
Happy Valentine's Day!
4 comments:
i like this post:)
happy (late) valentine's day!
My aunt sent me the wording of the poem:
"A pundit was asked to reveal, if he could,
The secret that makes some marriages good.
Though love is essential, the bearded one said -
Endurance is more so - with it, you're dead!"
Thanks Brett! Only, maybe the last line is "with-out it you're dead" ;)
And what are you doing reading my blog? Shouldn't you be on your honeymoon? I can't wait to share more photos with you & Anna!
Katie -- You're right about the last line of my mother's poem. It should be "Endurance -- without it you're dead!" -- Linda Scatton, aka Bret's aunt.
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